As veteran comedian/motivational speaker,
Alibaba wrote on IG. Read below.
"You will be suffering from their
immaturity and not know it. Sometime
ago, a guy sent me a message, "Ali
you have forgotten your friends. No
calls. Na only television I dey see you.
God dey sha". I am supposed to now
feel very sorry and begin to call him
daily Abi? Very often you come across
these emotional blackmail and it
doesn't hit you like its blackmail.
"I thought we were friends, you didn't
invite me for your party". "You don't
love me anymore". "If you love me you
will buy me...". "You forgot my
birthday, after you will say you are my
friend". "You claim to be my friend
and you did not Support me". "I
always knew you were biased, if not
you will... ". "You are the only friend I
can ask for this loan". "If everyone
believed, you are the last person I
expected to join them". "If I mean
anything to you, you will come and
visit me". "So your sister, brother,
boss, work, friend... is more important
than me?" "So you think I am not
GOOD enough for you?"... the thing
with emotional blackmail is that it
hinges the relationship on a single
issue. Issues that usually cannot
weigh on the same scale as everything
thing else you have between you. You
rent a house for a babe and furnish it.
Then one day, because of busy
schedules or some other things, you
couldn't call to wish her happy
birthday, she flings the blackmail, "So
I am not important again Abi?" Some
people set themselves up. What if the
guy was working to make you more
important? Anyway, people who use
this blackmail technique, have
probably done it over a long period of
time and have come to see that it's a
very effective tool. So they bank on its
efficacy in all relationships. Little do
they know that they are just exhibiting
emotional immaturity. What is not
coming to pay you a visit, got to do
with the love she has shown you for
over a year? Because she didn't return
your call, she doesn't love you
anymore. So returning a call has more
weight in the equation of your
relationship when stacked against
sleeping with you? C'mon naaaa!!! The
way I see these things may be
different. But trust me, when I smell
emotional blackmail, something inside
me switches off.
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