UK based Nigerian Gay rights activist, Bisi
Alimi continues the countdown to his
wedding while recalling the very first time he
tried on women clothing and how liberating
it now is to him. Read below.
Alimi continues the countdown to his
wedding while recalling the very first time he
tried on women clothing and how liberating
it now is to him. Read below.
Day 13 of 30 days to my wedding of
30 things to be grateful for. The first
time I put on a dress was at university
of Lagos. I was drafted to act a role
at the last minute as the character did
not turn up. I am sure @denrele_edun
will remember this event.
We were acting for Atiku's wife while
she was visiting. Many times after
that, I have dressed up. I dressed up
hosting many gay parties in#Lagos. In
1999, as a very young 24years old, I
won the glamorous Miss Gay Lagos. It
was an honour. As a man (yes, just in
case some of you are confused)
wearing a dress and heels and
stockings is liberating for me. I am
not a woman and I do not want to be
a woman. When I wear dresses, I wear
them as a man and this is why it is
very liberating for me. It connects with
my vulnerability. As an African man,
there is an expectation of what it
means to be a man. Wearing a dress
is also a statement of fuck you to
patriarchy. I don't do conformity. I live
in my head and in my world. I would
go naked and take a picture of it if I
feel so good about it. Then came last
year and I met @msposhp and she
changed my world. She made me
understand that beauty has no gender
and a dress is a dress is a dress. The
joy I feel when I take on the character
of Ms Posh is overwhelming. She
takes me to another level. Also
when@obehinoir makes her up, she
transforms into this beautiful woman I
have been dying to meet and know.
Ms Posh is an act, she is only real in
my head and in your imagination.
That imagination if you let it loose
will change the way you see women
and treat women. As a man in a dress,
I have experience sexual harassment
and verbal abuse and to me it is
interesting how just a dress changed
the way people treat me.
Unfortunately, Ms Posh is not invited
to me wedding, but I am sure, she will
be standing next to me in my head
when I say 'I Do' to my
man.#samesexmarriage
#samesexwedding#30
daysofthankfulness#equalmarriage
#weddingday#dragqueen
30 things to be grateful for. The first
time I put on a dress was at university
of Lagos. I was drafted to act a role
at the last minute as the character did
not turn up. I am sure @denrele_edun
will remember this event.
We were acting for Atiku's wife while
she was visiting. Many times after
that, I have dressed up. I dressed up
hosting many gay parties in#Lagos. In
1999, as a very young 24years old, I
won the glamorous Miss Gay Lagos. It
was an honour. As a man (yes, just in
case some of you are confused)
wearing a dress and heels and
stockings is liberating for me. I am
not a woman and I do not want to be
a woman. When I wear dresses, I wear
them as a man and this is why it is
very liberating for me. It connects with
my vulnerability. As an African man,
there is an expectation of what it
means to be a man. Wearing a dress
is also a statement of fuck you to
patriarchy. I don't do conformity. I live
in my head and in my world. I would
go naked and take a picture of it if I
feel so good about it. Then came last
year and I met @msposhp and she
changed my world. She made me
understand that beauty has no gender
and a dress is a dress is a dress. The
joy I feel when I take on the character
of Ms Posh is overwhelming. She
takes me to another level. Also
when@obehinoir makes her up, she
transforms into this beautiful woman I
have been dying to meet and know.
Ms Posh is an act, she is only real in
my head and in your imagination.
That imagination if you let it loose
will change the way you see women
and treat women. As a man in a dress,
I have experience sexual harassment
and verbal abuse and to me it is
interesting how just a dress changed
the way people treat me.
Unfortunately, Ms Posh is not invited
to me wedding, but I am sure, she will
be standing next to me in my head
when I say 'I Do' to my
man.#samesexmarriage
#samesexwedding#30
daysofthankfulness#equalmarriage
#weddingday#dragqueen
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