How do they manage to live with each other, fight, make up and still live without any grudges? Read on to find out more about the 10 secrets of blissfully happy couples.
1. Learning to let go – One of the biggest secrets of couples who are always happy is that they are ready to compromise in a healthy way. They understand that marriage brings with it an inherent responsibility to let go sometimes, even when you are right. Couples are expected to not hold grudges or complaints in their heart for too long.
2. No ego hassles – Having a bloated ego can be the deal breaker in a marriage. Being snooty and high nosed should have no place in a marriage otherwise complications are bound to occur. The secret of being a super happy couple is to say sorry when you are wrong and put your ego aside to sort out complications.
3. No violence or bad mouthing while fighting – The best of marriages can fall apart if couples start turning nasty with fights by bad mouthing and hurling objects at each other. Couples who want to sustain a happy marriage must follow the golden rule of not becoming abusive physically or verbally, no matter how intense the fight is.
4. Avoid comparison with other similar aged couples – Have you ever felt a wave of envy when you are out with your other couple friends who are in the same age bracket? Comparisons of salaries, looks, financial and social status, kids and families between two couples can be obvious. But if these things keep ticking at the back of your mind all the time, then they are bound to create an inferiority or superiority complex. Happy couples are always satisfied with what they have and strictly stay away from such petty comparisons.
5. Sharing chores and responsibilities – One of the secrets to a happy marriage that tends to vaporize with time is sharing chores and responsibilities. Whether it is doing the dishes, putting the baby to sleep, moving the lawn, paying the bills or selling the stocks, happy couples divide chores and decisions as equitably as possible.6. Agreeing to disagree
If you expect your husband to agree with all your opinions or vice versa, you are in for trouble because in the real world, that may not happen. Happy couples accept that they can have different opinions and learn to live with it rather than trying to convince each other.
If you expect your husband to agree with all your opinions or vice versa, you are in for trouble because in the real world, that may not happen. Happy couples accept that they can have different opinions and learn to live with it rather than trying to convince each other.
7. Respecting each other’s families – However independent couples are, some contact with the family is inevitable. Happy couples make it a point to like those members of the family that their spouses do. Respect each others’ family and do your bit to show that you actually care. Cutting off ties with a particular family member can leave an unspoken grudge in your partner’s heart which can lead to complications later.
8. Enjoying the differences – What happens if the husband is an introvert, hardcore finance expert and the wife is a happy go lucky, extrovert art critic? Would mayhem ensue? Not necessarily. The secret of couples who seem perennially happy is that they learn to enjoy each other’s differences, not get antagonized or intimidated by it.
9. Prioritize spending time together – Most working couples may have their platters full with errands all day. There are kids to take care of, the laundry needs to be done, the bills need to be paid, the golf clubs need to be replaced, emails need to be sent and so on. The grind of life is so enormous that it can take away from the time you spend as a couple. You must schedule time for yourself and your spouse to be a happy and satisfied couple.
10. Don’t keep raking up the past all the time – Couples who live in the past and keep pointing fingers towards the wrong they did before marriage, may never be happy. Everyone has a past in which they might have made some terrible mistakes. If you keep recalling the past every time during a fight or an argument, chances are that your marriage may never move forward.
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