follow the steps below
1.prioritize
It's a fact: Sometimes life forces us to put more
weight on one thing than another. Often, this
priority shift means forgoing one goal in exchange
for another; for example, weakening your
professional aspirations in return for relationship
growth. But you shouldn't have to sacrifice one
aspect of your life for another. After all, what's the
fun of a promotion if you don't have someone to
share it with?
The good news is prioritizing doesn't mean
sacrifice. It means adjustment. And by building a
strong foundation for both your romantic and
work life, you can prevent disruption when
priorities shift.
Step one: Make sure that both your significant
other and your coworkers know that they're a
significant part of your life. When both understand
that they are mutually valuable, staying late at the
office doesn't mean that you'd rather be at work,
nor does taking a personal day mean you don't
care about your job.
Communicate that both are of high priority and
sometimes, as need be, one might take
precedence.
2.Compartmentalize
Having a successful career and a loving
relationship is the best of both worlds. The best
way to keep those two separate worlds happy?
Just that—keep them separate! That means when
you're at work, commit fully to your job, the task
at hand, and the needs of your coworkers or
managers.
Don't let your love life be a distraction. There's
plenty of time to daydream outside the office.
Instead, spend your workday being productive and
you'll have more time quality time to spend with
your beloved later.
Likewise, when spending quality time with your
significant other, don't let work distract your
attention. Put away your BlackBerry, stop talking
about your next big proposal, and halt all
conversations about your gossipy coworker.
Instead, discuss topics you as a couple both
enjoy. On the plus side, you'll find that
occasionally disconnecting (fully) from work will
make you more productive when you return to the
office.
3. Manage Your Time
The number one factor in job loss and relationship
breakdown is lack of time and dedication.
Successful professionals who are in relationships
know this can be avoided with a little forethought
and planning. If your career demands that you
work long hours at the end of the month, plan a
weekend get-away with your guy the week before
so you can share time before your required
separation.
Equally, after a vacation or break from work, come
back to the office energized and eager to get back
to your job. Show your boss that even though
you value your relationship and personal life, you
are similarly devoted to your professional
success.
4. Stay Connected
Social networking exists for a reason—to reach
out and touch people. Spending time at the office
is unavoidable, but ruining your relationship
because you have a job is 100 percent avoidable.
The fix? Take five minutes each day to send a
quick private message to your significant other,
write on his Facebook wall — heck, even send a
quick email to let him know you're thinking of
him.
But please, this shouldn't be a novel, nor should
you share in a monumentally long IM chat every
hour. Remember, you're at work... you should be
working! Just a quick two-liner about how special
he is will do just fine.
5.know When to Quit
We'll be the first to admit, quitting gets a bad
wrap. But knowing when something or someone
isn't good for you and taking yourself out of that
situation makes for one great character trait.
The lesson: Be mindful of just how much time
you're investing in your relationship or your
career. If your late work hours are preventing you
from taking part in the things you love (a.k.a.
your relationship) it may be time to reevaluate
your job and career aspirations. Meeting with your
boss to establish a more efficient work schedule
might be in order.
Similarly, if your significant other is not
considerate of your career or life goals and
continually gives you grief about not spending
enough time with him, it may just be time to quit
him.
Just remember, success-minded people know
that balance is the spice of life. And no matter
how well you manage your time, sometimes your
life will be more focused on one area than
another. Just be sure to assess your goals from
time to time, evaluate where you are and where
you want to be, and plan accordingly.
You can have it all! You just have to work it, girl!
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